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Whilst lying on a beautiful beach in Benalmadina, I realised how calm and relaxed I was. There was no sound but the lapping of the waves. There was no external contact, as I had forgotten my phone at the apartment. There were no thoughts about work, or marketing.
This, I realised, is our normal state. This is our pure state. This is the state in which we arrive on this planet, and the manner in which we are expected to exist.
The problem is that we introduce noise to the equation. Noise is anything which affects our original state. It can be anger, anxiety, panic, alcohol, jealousy etc etc.
Think of the instances in your life which create this noise. Think of a person who fills you with anger. Think of the supermarket you are scared of entering. The motorway you try to avoid.
The world of mass is incapable of creating a feeling. It cannot produce a feeling of fear or apprehension in us. Yet we, on a daily basis, attach emotions or feelings to external objects.
Our aim in life must surely be happiness, and to attain this state, we need to be able to recapture our original state of calmness, before the noise arrived.
Close your eyes and visualise yourself being calm, and at peace. Take some deep breaths and let all the tension out of your body. Accept that this is your normal state, and a state which you are entitled to. Now open your eyes and look around you, and notice how calm everything is. This is how it is before the noise appears. Notice that anything which interferes negatively with this condition is just noise, and of no consequence to you. It cannot influence you or affect you.
Think of when you are having anticipation anxiety, and are worried about a future event. The future event doesn’t exist in reality, it only exists as an idea. It might never happen or it might happen in a completely different manner. The thought patterns you are experiencing are just noise, and they interfere with your natural state.
The next time you experience these negative states, acknowledge their existence, and label them as noise, and discard them. Go back to your natural state.
Your natural state is always constant and calm. If you think inwards, you will find that you are always ok. You are breathing, your heart is beating, and you are alive. So, when someone asks how you are, the answer must always be “I am ok”. Even if you are feeling anxious, your normal state is still “ok”, and will always be “ok”. Anything else is just noise!
(Vincent Benedict is a specialist in the treatment of panic attacks/anxiety. If you are interested in hiring him as your therapist, please email on firstname.lastname@example.org)
Zayn Malik anxiety
Zayn Malik anxiety explained by top anxiety therapist
Zayn Malik anxiety has been in the recent press after cancelling several shows due to anxiety/panic attacks.
In a recent article in The Mirror about Zayn Malik anxiety, it states:
“In a statement released an hour after he was due on stage, the star admitted being “haunted by anxiety” and told fans: “Unfortunately my anxiety that has haunted me throughout the last few months around live performances has gotten the better of me. With the magnitude of the event, I have suffered the worst anxiety of my career. I cannot apologise enough but I want to be honest with everyone who has patiently waited to see me, I promise I will do my best to make this up to everybody I’ve let down today.”
To try and understand what is happening to Zayn, we need to look at several factors:
1. Reason for the continuing attacks
Zayn’s first attack may have been on stage, or in public in front of many people. He has now built a connection between his attacks, and being in front of people. The fear he experienced when he felt his first attack would have been so traumatic, that the fear of experiencing these sensations again is keeping him in this cycle. When he is aware that he has a concert approaching, he suffers from something called anticipation anxiety; he fears the event and worries in case he has another attack on stage. This fear is so intense that he has to find a way to experience relief; this is why concerts are cancelled. The more often this happens, the more stronger the connection between “fear” and “performing on stage”.
2. Excitement or Fear causing Zayn Malik anxiety?
In many cases, people who suffer from anxiety often also have situations where their brain mistakes a sensation and sends you down the panic route. When you think about it, the sensations you feel during anxiety and excitement are very similar; faster heartbeat, blood pressure higher, hyperventilation etc etc. When a person, who suffers from anxiety, feels a rush of excitement, his brain sometimes mistakes the sensations as those of anxiety, and sends him down the anxious path. This is what that person’s brain is used to, and it is an easier path to take, because it has happened so many times before.
The sufferer often feels that he is the only one who feels this bad, and can’t visualise that there will be a time when he will be able to get back on stage, without having an attack. However, by working with a Panic Attack Therapist, he can learn to overcome these sensations and start to get control of his life again.
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